“you ain’t gotta lie…”

Listening to Kendrick Lamar this morning, I was inspired to write on today’s topic “Lying + Complexes.” This concept is as old as Methuselah. We all have complexes and then we lie to create the perception that we have arrived at our desired higher place. For starters, as defined by wikipedia , “a complex is a core pattern of emotions, memories, perceptions, and wishes in the personal unconscious organized around a common theme, such as power or status. (Primarily a psychoanalytic term, it is found extensively in the works of Carl Jung and Sigmund Freud.)”

Hhhmmm. Let that simmer. You do see where I’m heading with this, right? This increasingly  “flat” world, this age of tech and information, the times of self-entitlement all lead us here. But no, in the past there were other things that influenced generational complexes anchored in self glorification, power and wealth too; BUT today we have omnipresent influences coming in from our TV sets and mobile devices 24/7.

We all experience the hunger and drive to succeed in life. Yes, even the people that have fallen on hard times or the people that have given up. Yes, the people that have made a name for themselves and the people still striving (like me). Deeply rooted in our actions and plans for the future is a desire to achieve something, anything. The catch is that that desire doesn’t apply to “good” or positive things only. To some, to make a name is to make name and respect is respect…be it from fear or admiration, given willingly or by force.

So the complexes are there for us, the millennials. “I want to not only l succeed but I have to be the best at something…” Our emotions and perceptions lead us there. But then we get to look around (social media, blogs, TV, word of mouth) and see others satisfying their complex themes of fame, perfect love, happiness, wealth, power, influence etc. Mix that all together and what do you get? LIES! “You ain’t got to lie!” You don’t have to lie about who your friends are, what type of lifestyle you live, where you work, how much you make, what celebrities you kick it with, what car you drive, where you got your weave from, how much your shoes cost (whether they are really your shoes or not), how often you eat at elegant restaurants, what’s in your bank account, how much your trip costs…I could go on. Lying messes up the entire game and emits false perceptions all across the board. It perpetuates an unrealistic image of “making it ” and creates this underlying mood of bewilderment.

“You don’t have to try so hard, either!” Trying hard and lying to be accepted suppresses your biggest asset…THE REAL YOU.

Who are you really fooling?


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